Mom was father’s care-taker and now father is no more: the big burden of taking care of father is gone. Yet also this adrenaline that keeps you awake 24hours on 24 and gives you the daily energy to take care of a palliative cancer patient is gone.
No more adrenaline means mom starts feeling pain. Of course there is the pain of father no more being there. But there is also physical pain. Due to always bending over fathers bed and helping him up, in and out, moms’ shoulder ligament is torn.
During mothers day she felt less pain as there was much love around…
Of course she felt the pain before, but the task of taking care of father pushed the pain away. Now this task is gone, the adrenaline is gone, yet the pain stays and is now felt big time. So big that mom now is taking the same drops of painkillers father had to take for his metastatic liver cancer pain.