I had a discussion yesterday with a friend of mine who was very unhappy that dad’s doctor didn’t tell dad he had cancer.
According to my friend it’s unethical that a doctor doesn’t tell his patient he has cancer. Not only that, she wanted to start a petition to get rid of these so called " unethical doctors".
I told her that it was our family decision not to tell dad about his condition until he has recuperated fully from his surgery but she was adamant that we were wrong. .
Anyway, I tried to convince her that the energy that she has could be used for better cancer causes than to try to change something that may or may not be right even though she may think otherwise
On the other hand I do wonder about this question: who should tell you that you have cancer?
Please leave a comment with your ideas and or experience.
Hi Julie,
My hugs to you, your story sounds so familiar although they say each person is different.
Our father didn’t take chemo, so there we do differ. But I hear from my friends that did take chemo that the chemo really feels like killing you, so your husband’s description feels quite accurate.
Depression is something you should discuss with the doctors. father was also more “down” when he heard he had metastatic liver cancer, but the biggest dumper for him was when he heard the news he couldn’t beat it, he couldn’t fight it.
Cherish the good moments Julie and talk to your husband about anything and everything.
Mom said that father stopped talking to her about his cancer, so that’s extra hard.
All my hugs and feel free to drop by again and leave any comment!
SK
My husband was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer on 20 July this year. He seems slower and tireder but we still have some good times. His cancer was very small and he is being treated with chemotherapy. However the chemo is so uncomfortable to him he feels like he wants to die when he is on it. We wonder how the chemo effects him, how much is it likely to extend his life? Certainly he is in less pain now than before the chemo. He always knew that he had cancer from the inital time as we were in remission from esophegus cancer. I think that it makes him more depressed but how much would not knowing make him depressed.