Metastatic liver cancer

Archive for May, 2007

May 24 2007

Mom asks for advice (2)

Published by DaughterSK under CANCER STORIES, Care, Death, Health, Pain

For moms torn ligament "my good plan" is that she rest her shoulder as good as possible. I know that’s easier said than done, as once I had a torn ligament on my wrist, and even opening a stupid door became "to much of an effort". Yet I had no choice, as the other option was surgery which I dread… Mom is mom and of course she had to mown the lawn before seeing the orthopedic surgeon…

I did get a very uncomfortable plastic thing to put around my wrist. Discomfort was exactly what this thing was for: making sure my wrist wasn’t able to move for as long as I wore it. But I am aware that doesn’t exist for a shoulder.

So my advice is to rest her arm, but it seems I need to get a better plan in order to make sure she doesn’t do things herself like mowing the grass. The next task on her list is cleaning the house of the chickens…

Easy to give advice or "a good plan" when you already lived through something yourself…No need to use your imagination But practical planning is needed how to make sure the every day chores get done when you are not to use your right shoulder… All advice welcome!

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May 23 2007

Mom asks for advice

Published by DaughterSK under CANCER STORIES, Death, Health, Metastatic Liver Cancer, Pain

This is the first time in my entire life that mom asks me for advice That only explains that the rest of moms’ life, she had father to help her out…

When father had metastatic liver cancer, I was the commenting on other peoples’ ideas as : "that’s a good plan", but it seems that now mom and not only mom sees me as the person with the good plans… I wish I was!

Luckily there is the Internet where I can find people in a similar situation and ask them for the advice mother is asking for Thanks to the Internet and the cancer google groups, I myself learned how to better deal with father’s unexpected metastatic liver cancer. I hope I can help you as well!

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May 22 2007

Torn ligament

Published by DaughterSK under CANCER STORIES, Cancer treatment, Care, Death, Health, Metastatic Liver Cancer, Pain

For doctors life is easy: tumor anyone? If it’s benign, "just" cut it out and case closed. Next… Yet there are much more changes after a tumor is cut as you can read at Tumor in the brain, or just use your imagination what happens to a women’s hormones when the ovaries are removed…

Father gone, more problems still

Same with father’s death: it’s not because father is gone that life can go back to normal… not in the least!

On top of that mom has been neglecting herself just to help taking care of father. This neglect has led to her shoulder having a torn ligament. Yes there was pain, but mom needed to "carry on". You can "carry on" just as far as the ligament gets torn completely, yet luckily mom is not in that stage yet.

But it’s just one of the many examples to illustrate that life was "easier" when father still as around:

father "just" needed a lot of help and people to take care of him.

Or like one of his children said: we did what needed to be done, that was a ‘no-brainer’ because the task was huge and most important.

Yet lots of things have been neglected because of this huge task and these things are now coming to bite us.

Mom is going to see an orthopedic surgeon tomorrow Wednesday, and we just keep our fingers crossed that he is not "of the cutting type". I had a torn ligament myself: it can heal without cutting, you just have to be patient and make sure you let your ligament rest as much as possible. Yet I am a patient person, mom isn’t when it comes to pain.