Thanks Trish for explaining how embarrassment can kill, please come back and write more!
If you are a caregiver of a loved one with metastatic liver cancer , please read Trish’s cancer story.
Why? Because:
It is rare to hear first hand what really goes on in the mind
of somebody having secondary cancer.
Why? Because:
I remember mom saying that father told her more than a year before he was diagnosed with metastatic liver cancer something like this:
Father: something is wrong with me.
Mother: like what?
Father: something I can’t tell you.
Mother: but you can tell me everything, you know that!
Father:……
Father kept silent and since they were in bed, went to sleep…
If GPs don’t take you serious, change your GP
If there is blood in your stools, let it be examined! There shouldn’t be blood in your stools nor in your cough!
Trish found blood in her stools but her GP didn’t take it seriously. Just like my dad has colon cancer found blood in his stools and his GP said something like:
not to worry, must be bleeding hemorrhoids…
This blood in his stools came on and off for many months until father checked himself in the hospital himself. Luckily as the specialist removed a huge colon cancer that could have obstructed his colon by just a matter of a few more days.
And due to GP’s not taking father serious, his colon cancer has spread already to his lymph nodes. Unlike Trish, dad is in his 80’s, so he is not interested in chemotherapy…
We people still have a gut feeling that’s much more reliable compared with an overly busy GP who doesn’t get to the bottom of things.
Trish our only metastatic liver cancer survivor is back with 4 cancer stories in 1
Embarrassment can kill
Trish starts her comment to Paul at Jackie 43 years old passed away to metastatic liver cancer but
Hi,
Thank you for the hugs and kisses.
My heart goes out to you Paul & children.
When I thought I only had 6 months to go, I was okay with my fate, but I my biggest concern was my husband and my daughter, I knew that these 2 people would be the most affected by my demise, it was the thing that most made me cry.
I hope you have heaps of support
Paul, OXOXO.
My Mum’s partner (who she’s marrying this Saturday) entered my Mum’s life a little before I was diagnosed. He had lost his wife a couple of years beforehand to cancer.
From memory, she was being treated for cancer in her glands, and then it re-occurred and had gone to her lungs, she was being treated for lung cancer (unsuccessfully), but it was only the secondary, her primary apparently was hard to diagnose, she had ovarian cancer.
If the primary had been found first time round, it would have been treated, and if it had, I’m pretty sure he said that it wouldn’t have gone to the glands or lungs.
Sometimes when I don’t feel so great I get bitter, and it’s directed a 2 GP’s.
About 2 years before I was diagnosed, I had blood entwined with my stool (excuse me). I had managed to retrieve a stool and I took it to the doctor.
She gave me the obvious exam, scolded me for bringing in the stool. I remember her standing there with her hands on hips saying “What am I going to do with that?”.
You can imagine how embarrassed I was, she sent me off saying it was probably a hemorrhoid, by then I was double embarrassed.
I could feel something inside me at that stage about the size of a golf ball.
About 20 months later I went on a holiday to Russia (from Australia). I’m sure that being in the air brings any sickness out to open, I was sick all the way, and was sick for 1 day whilst there and sick on the way home.( I never got sick).
When I got back,
I went and saw another GP, same clinic, had a CT Scan, all she could focus on was a swollen cyst, which had been there for 8 years, she wouldn’t focus on the other white blob, which was bigger???
This GP was as dumb as the first, she gave me a pap smear, asked me to raise my pelvis cause she couldn’t get the speculum over the big lump….
DUH
…..Still didn’t register. Had it been found then, about 2 months before my final diagnosis, it would not have reached my liver. It was pretty aggressive until I started chemotherapy.
Unfortunately I can’t warn people to get a second opinion, because by the time you reach this website, it’s too late, the last thing you expect your doctor to tell you is that you have cancer, so you don’t investigate this far yet. I was certain that I had a twist in the bowel or something.
I bought two wrist bands yesterday because they were for bowel and cancer research, I just tossed them in the car. My daughter picked one up and read what was written on it. It said
“embarrassment can kill” How true.
It would be good if we could avoid that sniper, how appropriate was that statement, well said.
I had a CT Scan last Friday, 9th Sept. Hope all is well, I hope that they’ve shrunk even more.
Love to All,
Trish
Lots of hugs and prayers to you Trish.
Please drop by again if you can Trish and write about anything you have on your mind. Nothing will be censored here as too little is know and said about metastatic liver cancer.
@ Charlotte
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All our hugs.
I have just got back from the hospital with my dad, he was diagnosed with bowel and secondary liver cancer some time ago now, after 12 months of intensive chemotherapy and an operation to remove his tumor in his bowel, we have learned today that the liver has not responded to treatment, more chemo has been offered and without it survival rate is less than twelve months. More cancer cells have appeared since the operation and the chemo so we are obviously devastated to hear in theory this is the end of the road, seeing my dad turn yellow and in pain is terrible, and no words can compfort him, what do you say to man who is going to die!