Oct 27 2008
What do you say to man who is going to die
Charlotte’s father’s cancer starts resisting the chemotherapy he gets to cure his colon cancer and secondary liver cancer. In here comment at More news from Trish - metastatic liver cancer survivor, she aks:
What do you say to man who is going to die?
How would you answer that question? Please leave a comment.
When father diagnosed with metastatic liver cancer we were shocked but upbeat and kept talking about finding a cure.
But when after a few days of more tests, biopsy and scans the oncologist said that chemotherapy would most likely kill my father, we just became all very silent. Exactly, what do you say now?
We never found the right words to put father’s mood back to where it was. All we did was managing to put a smile on his face once in a while by doing the things he loved to do (with us).
Maybe the inspiration can be found in the last words father said to mother a few hours when he died:
When I have to do it all over again,
I will do it again with you.
Charlotte’s metastatic liver cancer story
I have just got back from the hospital with my dad. He was diagnosed with bowel and secondary liver cancer some time ago.
Now, after 12 months of intensive chemotherapy and an operation to remove his tumor in his bowel, we have learned today that the liver has not responded to treatment.
More chemotherapy has been offered and without it survival rate is less than twelve months.
More cancer cells have appeared since the operation and the chemo, so we are obviously devastated to hear in theory this is the end of the road.
Seeing my dad turn yellow and in pain is terrible, and no words can comfort him, what do you say to man who is going to die!
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Its so hard watching my dad . He has always been so strong now he has no fight left …I feel so lost …I wish I could take his pain away ..
Dear Michele Arno,
We felt exactly how how you feel now…
Like it says in the song of James Blunt:
strong as you were, tender you go…
All our prayers and hugs.
I am going to say again to my brother that maybe the age old story is actually true–maybe there is a Heaven, that someone bigger than us made us all, and that just maybe our mother is waiting for him and he will be the first to see her in over 40 years. Just imagine if it’s really TRUE!
Its about all I can hang on to right now.