Mom and dad were very angry when they first heard father had metastatic liver cancer. But as usual, father succeeded in toning down the angry faces. Father once told me: Eh, be patient! it’s me who is having this terrible cancer disease. And then I considered myself as the patient one…
Yet it was not always easy to be patient. What was the most important was getting enough sleep. Take a sleeping pill if needed. Or go for natural sleeping remedies. Mom didn’t do anything, she just kept awake when father was awake or even couched in his sleep. I could see when mom started sleeping less and less, that her patience level became equally less and less.
Myself I took turns in sleeping and keeping awake, so I did have a smooth 5 hours sleep each night. Less than what I normally sleep (I love to sleep 8 to 9 hours), but enough to get things done in a happy manner.
Do know that the cancer patient will need more and more help each and every day. Do know that every body will have less and less energy after each and every day. And do know that depression and will become part of your mindset in one way or another. This is no easy task and nobody prepared you for it.
Gather as much helping hands as you can, especially in your family and any paid services like cleaning services, food catering, drivers… Also seek out for people that have gone through a similar experience and understand what you will be going through. Outsiders have no clue and can’t grasp what’s happening when your loved one cannot be cured.