Important for those palliative care takers of their own husband or wife:
more pain ahead when your loved one is gone…
Antidepressant medication
Mom, who was fathers’ palliative care taker number 1, just got a prescription of alprazolam xanax. This is basically an antidepressant medication. Or like one of the palliative nurses said today:
Yes, your mom will shed lots and lots of tears over father, but you need to make sure that her day is more than just sitting there and sobbing away.
What we did already to ease the tears:
- painkillers (moms’ body "suddenly" is in big pain after the metastatic liver cancer stopped fathers’ life
- family support : mom seems to cry less when she is with somebody (mom cries the most in bed)
- palliative support : yes, the palliative nurses still drop by
- take some work out of moms’ hands (yet mom started complaining that she can do things, which is exactly what we want: mom has to do something in stead of having tears all day)
- taking away all reasons why mom should keep at home
- now the antidepressant medication: Alprazolam from xanax (just a tiny dose the doctor says…, this doctor is always very careful when prescribing medication, we love him for that)
Like we said: the tears will flow, yet they cannot flow 24 hours a day…