Pammy wrote a month ago about her sister being diagnosed with an aggressive secondary liver cancer at Sad secondary liver cancer news, please give your support!
She then left a message which I will quote below asking “is anybody reading this?“…
Please if you are reading this: leave a comment!
If you have no clue what to say, just write “yes I am reading this”
Pammy’s quote
Yes there must be a God apparently he made my beautiful little sister and her little boy’s now he’s gonna take her back so i’m no big fan right now!
Ann has had her 3rd chemo 5 hours worth it has knocked her off her feet she has swelled quite a lot but her has not been increased yet but her pain is a bit worse and reality has kicked in she is very emotional , she has more chemo 12th dec then scan 17th so some good news right on Christmas wouldn’t go a miss x
Does anyone actually read this?
I feel as though i’m on my own so useless , helpless , worthless I know i’m not the only 1 to go through this I’m struggling emotionally any pointers ,
pammy x
Dear Pammy
In difficult moments like these, you still quote that you know that others are going through this as well… Meaning that you are a caring person, and that’s the worth you need to empower.
Also don’t “downsize” your story by comparing to others…
The feelings of useless, helpless, worthless are very recognizable, add to that “anger”. We had a lot of “anger” that could burst out for no reason towards somebody that apparently didn’t do anything wrong.
You need to do what you feel is right, embrace life and know that life will end sooner or later with everybody. It’s just that we are so focused on “later”…
In the case of father, I “just asked him” what he wanted me to do now that I was there having traveled from far.
“Nothing” he said….
It is then up to you to have a look around and see what more you can do than “nothing”, because all extra you can do is a bonus!
During those days: I invented the “that’s a good plan” sentence… Be it a “short term good plan” like buying a desert father , be it a “long term good plan” like organizing palliative care takers…
In the case of your sister: the “short term good plans’ are the daily things she enjoys in life, the “long term good plan” would be an assurance that her 2 boys will be taken care for.
Pammy: please keep in touch and try to find more people that had cancer or have a loved one with cancer: they have a much more realistic approach towards all what’s happening than the people without the experience.
Like father’s doctor said: it’s in the end quite easy for me to tell you your father has cancer, because I live here between my 4 white walls and I go home in the evening. You guys have the difficult task of making decisions and doing things you most likely never ever spend enough thinking about, let alone have a solution for…
Please give pammy a hug and leave a comment!
Pammy – What has been going on in your life? can you share what happened with your sister? I am very new to all this – father just diagnosed with mets to the liver and lungs.
Thankful for anything you have to offer!
Catherine
Pammy,
My sister is in America with her husband (we are from N. Ireland) and took ill two weeks ago,(heavy bleeding down below) she lost 4 pints of blood, and an emergency hysterectomy was performed, as doctors said she would bleed to death if they didn’t do it. They found her to have cancer of the uterus and the liver, with numerous large tumors on her liver the largest being 8″ in diameter. Her prognosis is very poor, they have given her a life expectancy of 3-6months. She didn’t even feel ill until the bleeding, althought she had breast cancer 8 years ago.
This has come a a complete shock, my husband and I have flown over to take her home, she had no symptoms at all , and is stunned that she is so ill yet feels so normal, apart from the after efects of the hysterectomy..
I wish you and your sister all the very best, and send you hugs, there is nothing more important to me that my relationship with my sister, and I am dreading the road ahead for her, as she is such a vibrant outgoing person
I’m reading this….. My dad just got diagnosed with metastasic liver cancer, and he is feeling terrible, so do we. We will see the oncologyst in two days for the first time, doubths and fear is not nice, He has two base ball sized masses on liver, some smaller ones on lungs and bones. Two months ago he seemed very good and now he is pale and skinny, he seems very week, and deseperate about pain, taking like 60 mgs of morphine twice a day…
I was making some research when i found you…. I’m so sorry some of us have to go through this…. it is very painful for us to see a beloved one go through such pain….
Let’s all pray for each other and squeeze the best out of this awful experience, if we need to learn something from this, let’s learn it with love and patience, let’s be strong for them and give them the best time ever!!!
God bless you. soooo much!!!! Here goes my hug!!!!
I am reading this. My husband,45, has Angiosarcoma of the liver.
He never smoked, took drugs or worked in a factory that emitted chemicals. We have two children,13 and 9, and we just found out that the chemo that they are using is not working so they have switched him to a new drug. He just came home from the hospital and doesn’t have enough energy to make it up the stairs. I can’t stand to see him in this state and I fear he doesn’t have much time left. We just found out on Oct 31 that he has a liver mass so it has only been 8 weeks and already I can see how cancer causes such pain, pain that no person should have to endure. Keep us in your prayers.
Terese
Hi Tammy
Your story has touched my heart.You are not alone!I have a 5yr son recently diagnosed with life threatnening illness.At first we were told it was Acute Luekimia but Doctors have come to a conclusion its a severe case of Aplastic Anaemia.I practically died inside to hear the news but you learn to live with it.I am giving him all sorts of super foods and they are helping a bit even Doctors have spoted some improvements.Its never too late I can provide information on what I am giving him.
Lots of Hugs and Merry Christmas.
Hi Pammy,
Yes, I am reading – I stumbled upon your post while looking for something else – so I guess it was meant to be. I lost my boyfriend to liver cancer last year. It was the hardest 5 years of my life – watching the treatments – and the change and feeling so lost and alone.
Fortunately, the liver support group at Shands Hospital in Gainesville Florida and Dr. David Nelson, head of GI Liver gave us a lot of love – tons of love – and managed to find clinical studies that benefited my boyfriend. The study benefitted him so much he became eligible for a transplant (as far as the Doctor’s were concerned) but the state of Florida (Medicaid) denied him because of the money. This was a real blow to everyone.
I won’t say I am religious – I am spiritual – but God does answer prayers and is there in our hour of need – the God of the universe or whatever you want to call him.
The universe has a purpose for each and every one of us, for you and your sister – Your sister is cared for by God and the universe and – people like me are out here for you – praying, sending you hugs, and love and healing vibes. Reach out to that energy. We are all in this together – none of us – alone — though we feel it often and there is nothing more horrible than the grief we feel when we lose someone –
I have come to see those who I’ve lost are still here with me – they are my angels now – and God knows I could not go on without them.
We send you love and hugs – never stop believing in the angels – They help us through the hard times to show us the miracles.
Remember – your sister is God’s child, a beautiful child of the universe – and though we might not understand her purpose right now or her suffering – she is great and good – enduring more than we can imagine.
hugs, and hugs and eons of hugs
Valerie
aka “Ariel” arielval@yahoo.com
I am reading this!!
I am so very sorry for your situation with your sister. it does not seem fair for someone so young with little children left to raise to have to worry about how her kids will be, how they will handle this situation. my husband just found out that his father is reaching his end, and I am not sure what to do for or what to say to him all I can do is be there I guess.